Motivation books

Emotional Intelligence

The emotional Brain

1. What are emotions for?

Emotions are used to describe and show or express our feelings, such as ; anger, fear, love, jealousy, and etc.

2. Anatomy of Emotional Hijacking.

Anatomy of Emotional Hijacking is a circumstance where emotions control your body to do something that urge or in emergency way.

The Nature of Emotional Intelligence

1. When Smart is Dumb

Many people believe that brilliant people are people who have high IQ score, but if it’s right why do many of high IQ students fail to reach their success life?

As the fact, 80% of our success lives come from emotional intelligence, and the rest are based on our IQ. That’s why , there are so many cases in the field that we found, the smart one lives in miserable life.

2. Know yourself

Knowing yourself means that you know and realize how will your feelings react to something. This will prevent you from being down or sad, because you know how to control your emotion.

3. Passion’s Slave

Some of us maybe have already heard about one’s saying that express your anger will relieve your feeling and arrest your anger in your heart will hurt yourself. But according to Goleman, anger will rise another anger, and expressing your anger will not relieve your feeling but It makes you getting more angry. Finally, you can control emotion, but your emotion controls your feeling.

The Master Aptitude

Good kind of emotion will lead you to be a master of aptitude. Emotional traits such as enthusiasm and persistence are important to build our emotional intelligence. A research reports that attach in this book tells us that most of the Asian students show better record of success than their white counterparts not for their IQ level but persistence to improve their weaknesses makes them better.

The Roots of Empathy

The roots of empathy come from our consciousness of some someone’s expressions we caught.

In this moment, we start to feel, understand and empathize with what someone is feeling.

The Social Arts

Social arts is an ability to communicate well to each other with showing your emotions and ability to influence others feelings. In other hand, the ability to drive others emotions is called social relationships arts.

Emotional Intelligence Applied

1. Intimate Enemies

Intimate Enemies is a condition where you cannot communicate and express what you feel and think inside. This condition usually arise between a lover or a couple. Mostly, the decision that had been made to end the relationship between a lover it’s because they can feel the same anymore, they can understand what his/her lover feel or think.

2. Managing with Emotional Intelligence

After we know about how great emotional intelligence is, it is important for us to apply it in our life. Managing with emotional intelligence means using your emotional wisely to manage your life, for example realize what leadership is. Leadership is not about authority, but the art of convincing someone willingly to work hard together for good purposes.

3. Mind and Medicine

As we know that most of diseases are caused by bad emotional or negative thinking. People who experience chronic anxiety, long periods of sadness and pessimism, unremitting tension or incessant hostility, relentless cynicism or suspiciousness, face double the risk of disease—including asthma, arthritis, headaches, peptic ulcers, and heart disease.”

So, the medicine to cure your body is changing your bad emotional and your negative thinking into emotional intelligence.

Windows Of Opportunity

1. The family Crucible

Family is the most important place where someone can build their emotional intelligence. Parents who have an emotional intelligence will be more competence to help their children to face and solve their emotion.

2. Trauma and Emotional Relearning

Trauma can be solved by knowing yourself and realizing that problems can be more severe if we are put in uncontrollable stress.

3. Temperament is not Destiny

We can control our feeling and even our thought, so we can control our temperament too, because temperament is a part of emotion.

Emotional Literacy

1. The Cost of Emotional literacy

Regret is the most expensive cost we have to pay for doing something in an incontrollable emotion.

2. Schooling the Emotions

Teaching and training your emotional intelligence are the best way to get a best feeling.

Here are some ways to improve your IE:

· know your own emotional conditions

· Control your emotion and think the best solutions instead

· Sharp your empathy

· Build good relationships